Can a Dating Coach Help You Find Your Soul Mate?

Jonathan Robinson thought his text exchanges with an attractive woman he met on a dating app were going so well that he asked her out. He was delighted when she said yes. But then she asked about his past relationships. After he said he was divorced, she peppered him with questions: When was the breakup? Was he really over his ex? Did he feel emotionally available? Mr. Robinson froze. Then he placed an emergency phone call—to his dating coach. “I said that my date was about to fall apart,” says the 36-year-old computer systems analyst, who lives in Allentown, Pa. “I need help.”

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Why Silicon Valley singles are giving up on the algorithms of love

Kate Chan, a 30-year-old digital marketer in Silicon Valley, first approached dating apps with a blend of curiosity and hope that they’d help her find a great guy. But after six months of dead-end mismatches with guys she thought were boring or work-obsessed, she has gone back to what she called “meeting the old-fashioned way”: without a screen. 

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Millennials are open to an age-old idea about marriage: that it should be temporary

In Nov. 1891, the British sexologist Havelock Ellis married the writer and lesbian Edith Lees. He was 32 and a virgin. And since he was impotent, they never consummated their union. After their honeymoon, the two lived separately in what he called an open marriage. The union lasted until Lees’ death in 1916. This is not what most would consider a model marriage. But perhaps because of its unusualness, Ellis was able to introduce an idea that remains as radical and tantalizing today as it was in his time: trial marriages. 

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Meet Tinder's In-House Sociologist

One day, as I swiped my way through Tinder, a pithy line on someone’s profile gave me pause: “If I was looking for a relationship, I would be on OkCupid.” Every dating app has its own reputation: eHarmony for the older generation, Raya for celebrities, Bumble for women wanting to make the first move. For Tinder, now nearing release in 200 countries worldwide, “hookup app” persists as the unshakable reputation. But Jessica Carbino would like to add a bit of nuance to that perception.

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